Sorrow is better than laughter
Friday February 8th 2008
by Paul Armstrong
Sorrow is better than laughter, because a sad face is good for the heart. Ecclesiastes 7:3
I've never been able to understand that verse, but it always comes to me when something tragic happens in our life. Yesterday we received more bad news in our family, that our baby was no longer there. Sonya started "spotting" Wednesday evening, continually. Rather than anxiously await to see if something was wrong we went to the doctor and had an ultrasound to find out what was happening. When on that screen we saw something we didn't expect to see -- a dark, empty spot. No baby. Nothing inside.
Our hearts sank.
The nurse quickly exited; and ever rush of emotion filled us both. The anticipation of another family member coming into our home -- Abigail and Elliott even helped us pick names (Luke or Lilly), we had started to gather cloths and toys. And in just seconds it vanished. Right now I'm upstairs as Sonya begins this painful process of miscarrying what's left inside of her. Pain on top of pain.
We'd had a great outpouring of support and love already, and can't thank everyone enough for their sympathy and prayer. So, we ask you all to keep praying for us; though I'm not sure what we need -- comfort, peace, clarity, rest? All of it, any of it.
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shell and i are praying for you as i type. i'm so sorry you two are going through this. please let us know if there is anything we can help with, listen, etc. i love you and you're in my prayers.
by general lee
∞ Friday, February 8th, 2008
I am praying for all of it, Paul.
The dreams that we have for our little ones are so huge - even before they are bean sized. We find out they are there and then... They are there... so present in our minds, we build up a picture of what they will be like, what it will be like to have another baby in the house what kind of big brother and sister our little ones will be.
And when that little one passes on... it is not just the little one we lose, it is all those thoughts and dreams and nothing seems right. You have to grieve through all those things, all those losses. It hurts. Like Hell. I know of no bigger hurt. And I pray for you, and Sonya and Abigail and Elliot too. Sending you love. You will pull through, you will thrive, but maybe that's not what you need to hear right now. Right now is just... right now. A hurting place.
And I'm so sorry.
by christine Gill
∞ Friday, February 8th, 2008
terribly sorry to hear this; my wife and i are praying for you.
by jonshell
∞ Friday, February 8th, 2008
Really sorry for you both.
We'll be praying for you.
Let us know if we can do anything.
by Lard
∞ Friday, February 8th, 2008
You all are in my prayers (as you know). I'm so sorry...
by the sis
∞ Friday, February 8th, 2008
Dear Sonya and Paul,
I was just getting ready to e-mail Sonya to see if you needed anything for the baby. Words can never convey (from two who have been there) just how sorry we are to hear of this terrible news. We'll keep you in our prayers, Pamela for Jerry
by Pamela Lippert
∞ Saturday, February 9th, 2008
Sorry to read that...
by g-a-b
∞ Saturday, February 9th, 2008
You don't know me, I'm a fan of your blog (via Lance W and flickr).
Praying for your family right now...
by Steve
∞ Saturday, February 9th, 2008
Thank you, thank you, thank you, for all of your kind words, dear friends. I'm not a stranger to pain, but this kind of pain is different than any other I've experienced. Pain and grief just never get any easier.
Your prayers and empathy are so appreciated.............
by sonya
∞ Sunday, February 10th, 2008
My prayers are also with you.
by Mike
∞ Tuesday, February 12th, 2008
Praying for you and your family in this time.
by ZNB
∞ Wednesday, February 13th, 2008